It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.
- C.S. Lewis
As coaches, we know that it’s all about transformation and ‘becoming’ are best selves. C. S. Lewis’ quote is a wonderful metaphor for us to share with our clients. Each part of this metaphor has value to impart:
The chicken or the egg?
We have all watched a baby chicken struggling to break free from their shell. We know that if they will ‘fight’ through the egg, that they will be free to explore and discover what’s waiting for them outside. We know that as coaches, our job is to encourage our clients so that they won’t give up.
Fear of flying.
We can envision the comical picture, of a full grown chicken trying to learn to fly inside the cramped, confined space of an eggshell. As coaches, through asking open-ended questions and challenging our clients to brainstorm possibilities, we can help our clients see when they are unorganized, afraid, or reluctant to take risks.
We’ve all played the ‘rotten egg’ game. It goes like this…”Last one in the pool is a rotten egg!” or, “Last one from point A to point B is a rotten egg!” On the one hand, if our clients don’t take control of their lives, or are uncertain about their purpose, they are likely to have ‘life happen’ which will limit their choices, and possibly reinforce past negative life experiences when they may have been victims, bullied, passive, or controlled. On the other hand, if our clients feel too much of a sense of urgency or pressure, they may make uninformed, ‘knee jerk’ decisions, which could have been avoided, if they’d been given more time to weigh the pros and cons. The beauty of coaching is that we serve as a sounding board for our clients, allowing them to articulate their options, and assess the likelihood of their success, while moving forward so that they aren’t left with only the rotten options.
- Are you about to crack? Are you in the process of freeing yourself from any habits, addictions, or negativity which confines you?
- Are you trying to fly, but finding yourself contained, entrapped, or limited by friends, family, or circumstances?
- Are you afraid that you’ll be ‘cooked’ before you can break free of your shell?
- If you feel like you’ve already been ‘cooked,’ or that you are ‘scrambled’ or ‘over-easy,’ what essential ingredients do you need, so that you can create an award winning life’s recipe?
- Do you feel a sense of urgency, or are you willing to take a risk, in order to break free to become the person, you are becoming?