Scales

A system is in equilibrium when the forces constituting it are arranged in such a way as to compensate each other, like the two weights pulling at the arms of a pair of scales.
- Rudolph Arnheim

As coaches, we know the importance of balance. Think about the life of one of your clients as a set of scales. The arms of the scales need to be in perfect balance, to keep the arms from tilting or dragging on the ground.  What is competing for balance in this scenario?

Once there was a business man with great dreams and career aspirations. His boss approached him and gave him a choice. He could continue in his present job and be up for promotion in one to two years; or he could have the promotion today. What was the trade off? If he wanted the promotion today, he would have to move across country leaving his aging parents behind, and relocate his children to new schools. He had a weighty decision. Given his values and the choices he was given, how could he maintain balance?

The ‘things’ a client puts on the opposite sides of the scale are weighty. Some of the things are lightweight, others are heavy. Regardless, they are things the client is willing to carry. Ideally, the ‘things’ on the left side of the scale are a client’s priorities and values, i.e. ‘family,’ ‘health,’ ‘financial security.’ On the other side, are the ‘means,’ the things we do to enjoy and live out our values and priorities i.e. ‘work,’ ‘exercise,’ ‘budgeting.’ Sometimes, the weight given to the left side of the scales (values and priorities) isn’t as much as we think, because the things on the right side of the scale, (the means) for enjoying and realizing our goals and priorities, outweigh the goals and priorities on the left side.  

How about this scenario? There was a woman involved in a dream relationship. The man doted on her and treated her like a queen…most of the time. She truly believed He was the man she was to be with forever.  Sometimes, however, for no apparent reason, the man became angry. When this occurred, he yelled and was verbally abusive. After a time of venting, he would offer up an apologetic “sorry.” After his apologies, things would be great again for awhile. She desperately wanted a loving relationship, but every time she forgave him, she felt as though she were taking her happiness off the scale. Were the good times so good, that they were worth the bad times? Was this a fair trade off, or were her scales out of balance?

[Coaching Questions]

  • What are your priorities?
  • What are you balancing?
  • Are your scales out of balance?
  • If you could take items off of your scale, and trade them for other things…what items would you take off the scale? What items would you replace them with?
  • What are you trading?
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What Kind of Tree Are You

The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now.
- Anonymous

If you were a tree, what kind of tree are you? Are you a red oak: easy-going but strong and steady? Perhaps you are a sugar maple: sweet, energetic and creative? Maybe you are a weeping willow: sensitive, kind and love helping others? Ah, I know, you are a black walnut: popular, attractive, but dangerous? (Black walnut kills whatever other plants get near it!)

Have you noticed that how we see ourselves as trees? We “branch out” when we explore a new direction. We “flourish” when we thrive. We “bend backwards” when we try very hard to please somebody else except for ourselves. And just when we are getting serious about work, there are always squirrels dancing on the branches and distracting us.

It dawned on me how a tree resembles a human being. A tree has roots, trunk, branches and leaves, and each of us has values (the roots of who we are), intention (the trunk of what we stand for), actions (the branches of what we do) and results (the leaves of what we want).    

As a gardener, I’d like offer three tips of growing a healthy tree:

  1. Pay attention to your roots:  What’s important to you? What are your core values? Love? Loyalty? Honesty? Passion? Courage? Or something else? A tree does not define itself by its branches and leaves. What happens after storm? Do you all the sudden become a naked tree? No, you are still the wonderful red oak, sugar maple, weeping willow, or black walnut as you always are.
  2. Center yourself with intention. Pop quiz- What tree has no trunk? The answer is: Banana tree. It does not have a true woody trunk. A tree without a trunk is technically not a tree. Would it be bold to say a person without intention is technically not a human being?  Intention is the key for us to connect who we are (roots) to what we do (branches).
  3. Prioritize your branches and simplify your life. Have you ever seen trees that have tons of branches and leaves, so heavy that the trunk bended, so heavy that the roots just cannot get enough nutrients to support it, and it suffers. Simplify your life, with the values and intentions in mind, what are the actions and results are really matters? People hire gardeners to trim extra branches and leaves of the tree in the yard, but they don’t want to trim extra branches and leaves in their lives. Life does not have to be complicated. You will be surprised once we free ourselves from the burden of carrying all those branches and leaves, our tree is getting healthier.

How about starting your day with a sketch of a bare tree? You can put your core values on the roots, your intentions on the trunk, and start to populate the branches and leaves that aligned with who you are and what you really want. You get to decide how full your tree will be today.

Take a minute and ask yourself: what kind of tree are you? What kind of tree you want to be? And most importantly, what kind of tree you choose to be?

[Coaching Questions]

  • Who are you , really? How would your friends describe you?
  • What motivates you? What are you passionate about?
  • What is your heart telling you?
  • Is that a need or a want?
  • Where is your life out of balance?
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One Hundred and One Acorns

When the oak is felled the whole forest echoes with it fall, but a hundred acorns are sown in silence by an unnoticed breeze.
- Thomas Carlyle

Joshua was a rather quiet ten year old despite having two younger sisters around him.  One afternoon in early November as he was sitting on his back porch, he became fascinated with the sound of the wind in the white oak tree as it rustled through the leaves.

What seemed like a hundred acorns lay scattered across the lawn, thrown willy-nilly by the breeze.

A restlessness drove him to rise from the swinging porch bench and he walk over to the base of the oak tree, with the sound of crunching acorns and branches beneath his shoes.

It was more than a year since his granny had died and this was her favorite tree.  They would sit for hours on the two make-shift rope swings and talk about everything from cats to school to making the world a better place. 

Josh sat on the wooden seat of the tree swing and gained momentum and height as his thoughts wandered on the good times with his granny.

Like Sir Isaac Newton, he was shaken from his reverie by a painful blow on the top of his head.  He jerked his head around quickly enough to see this white acorn roll on its belly until it stopped about two feet away in a clump of vegetation with other acorns.  The season was over and this must have been the last acorn on the tree.

Walking over, Joshua picked up the acorn, noticing that a very small stem was sprouting from the top.

Carrying his special acorn to the garage, he pulled a 10 inch plant pot from the shelf and carried the ensemble to the garden and planted it in the pot.

The plant remained in the window box of his bedroom all through the cold months.  Progress was slow but Joshua monitored his little oak tree and praised it for every leaf and any growth of the stem. 

Joshua’s little oak tree responded to his love and attention and on the last Friday in April of that year Joshua carried his favorite plant for the school’s National Arbor Day celebration.  His school principal allowed him to plant his little oak tree on the front lawn of the school’s compound.

That was thirty-two years ago. 

Of the hundreds of acorns falling from the tree in his garden, Joshua’s special acorn now provides shade under its branches for all the teachers, parents, students and visitors at his old school.

Successful people have trusted advisors guiding them toward their goals. The next generation requires committed individuals who can see their potential and believe with them that they can surpass this potential.

A coach sees a strong oak tree in every acorn, holds the vision of the highest self for every client, and supports the client to pursue it.

[Coaching Questions]

  • What will your legacy be?
  • What is perfect about where you are in your life right now?
  • How do you pay attention to the call of the wind?
  • Who has picked you up and planted you in the pot?
  • What has to happen to become an oak tree?
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Fairy Tales

Hope is the expectation that something outside of ourselves, something or someone external, is going to come to our rescue and we will live happily ever after.
- Dr. Robert Anthony

Once upon a time there was a princess, who married a prince, was granted 3 wishes from a genie, discovered her fairy godmother, came across some magic beans, won the lottery, and lived happily ever after…well, not really! Let me tell you the rest of the story…

You see, the ‘prince,’ turned out to be a real toad. The three wishes granted by the genie, were a disaster. The fairy godmother? Please…she was clueless when it came to real world transportation and fashion. After all, mice don’t make designer clothes, and pumpkins get terrible gas mileage on the interstate.

The magic beans the princess planted, sprouted kudzu which quickly spread through her courtyard, consuming the Bermuda grass, ornamental trees, and shrubs. And who knew that when you win the lottery, your winnings are eaten up by taxes, and the payroll for the body guards, you have to hire to keep the big bad wolves away from the meager amount of winnings which remain? 

We grow up on fairy tales and it just seems life would be easier if we married the prince, were given three wishes, had a fairy godmother, planted magic beans, or won the lottery. The reality is that there is no ‘magic pill’ and no knight in shining armor to ride in on a white horse to rescue us. We can stand in the tower and watch the horizon…but nobody is coming.

Talented coaches know that our clients have to ‘work’ through the challenges which face them.  Helen Keller once said,

Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.

Coaches help their clients move from placing their hopes and dreams in Prince Charming and fairy tales, to identifying their life purpose and crafting the goals and actions steps to carry out their life purpose. Once a client can articulate their ‘purpose,’ life has new meaning. Coaches encourage their clients not to lose sight of the fact that even in tough times, if they focus on the ‘big picture’ while adjusting their ‘To Do’ list to meet the needs of the present, they don’t have to sacrifice the life path they want to journey along. Coaches know that a purposeful life is the only one worth living.

[Coaching Questions]

  • What are some of the fairy tales you learned as a child?
  • Did these fairy tales give you false expectations about life in the real world?
  • If you could do anything and knew you would not fail, what would you want to do with your life?
  • If money were no object, what would a typical day in your life look like?
  • Complete this statement, “During my life I must….”
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Chicken Ribs

“Success depends on getting good at saying no without feeling guilty.”
- Jack Canfield

At the Three Kingdoms Period (220-280 A.D), China was split into three kingdoms: Wei country, Xu country & Wu country.

Cao Cao, the King of Wei declared the war to his neighbor. He led the Wei army and invaded the Xu country.

The battles were bloody; they were brutal. Wei army took over lands, rivers, villages at first. But up to certain point, they encountered very strong resistance from the Xu people. Days passed, Wei army cannot advance any further. Cao Cao held his forces for many days, unable to advance but also unwilling to retreat.

Cao Cao was in a state of indecision. At this moment the chief cook brought in chicken broth for Cao Cao, who noticed pieces of ribs in the bowl. The sight gave rise to a thought. As he was musing, Xiahou Dun, the General of Wei, entered his tent to ask what the password would be that night. “Chicken ribs, chicken ribs.” Cao replied unthinkingly. Xiahou Dun passed the information to the officers.

First Secretary Yang Xiu heard the words and instructed the soldiers assigned to him to pack up and prepare for the journal home. This was reported to Xiahou Dun, who is in amazement invited Yang Xiu to his tent and asked why he was preparing to leave. Yang Xiu replied “I knew by the night signal that the kind of Wei would be returning in a few days. You see, chicken ribs have no meat on them, yet one relished them for the flavor. If we advance, we cannot prevail. Retreat will earn us men’s contempt. There is no advantage either way, so a quick return home is the best choice. Tomorrow high Highness will order us home to the capitol; I thought I’d better put my things in order and avoid the last-minute rush.”

He was right. The Wei army returned home the very next day.

Chicken ribs have no meat on them. They don’t taste much, but you feel bad to just throw them away.

Chicken ribs are things, projects or people we keep around, spend time on/with, but to be honest, they are not (or no longer) interesting, exciting or important to us. They are there just because they have been there. We feel guilty to let them go, so we allow them to consume our energy, occupy our resources, and before we know it, they get into the way for us to get things you really want.  

Life is short. There are more important things to do in life than sucking on chicken ribs. It’s time to let them go.

[Coaching Questions]

  • What are your chicken ribs?
  • Who are your chicken ribs?
  • How are you giving away your time?
  • What’s the best use of your time?
  • Where do you plan to spend most of your time in the next 5 years?

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Nodding Trillium

Freedom is strangely ephemeral.  It is something like breathing; one only becomes acutely aware of its importance when one is choking. 
- William E. Simon

Late September, deep in the natural woodlands of the Norway Valley, Mother Nodding Trillium watched as all her young seeds lay strewn across the moist forest floor from her now empty ruby-red berry.

Eager ants were busily collecting these seeds and scampering off in all directions.

Natasha, the young Nodding Trillium seed realized that she was suddenly suspended on the back of a huge ant, who completely ignoring her screams, continued to mutter to itself in a language that Natasha could not understand. 

After devouring the elaiosome covering Natasha, the female ant departed, leaving Natasha shivering with fear in the ant’s nutrient rich waste deposit.

Natasha knew she had traveled far away from her mother and lay barely covered on the forest floor, all through the long autumn and winter, too sad to make any changes.

Spring came and Natasha lay on the soft moist ground still afraid to come to the surface. The rain fell often and the raindrops soothed her aching heart.  She made up her mind she would have to stay and began germinating by growing roots, still refusing to come to the surface.

One year passed, and Natasha’s cotyledon became photosynthetic and could tolerate light but Natasha remained below the ground taking and taking from the bounty of the forest.

On the third spring with a little courage, Natasha peeped from the forest floor that was now her home and raised her stalk in the air and produced her first leaf.

For the first time, she saw the beauty above the ground but did not appreciate it.  Mother ant had left her in a place where deer or students hiking in the valley could not reach her.

Seven springs after mother ant’s feast, Natasha had grown beautiful on the outside with three big leaves but was bitter on the inside from her experiences.

Nature took its course and Natasha the nodding selfish “three-ness” lily plant began attracting insect pollinators but was bothered by the thought of having to feed the insects.

Without her consent, Natasha’s stalk continued to change and she produced flowers with three petals and three sepals, six stamens, three stigmas and a three-celled ovary.

Finally, one day in late April, a bright red berry with three ribs appeared, replacing the three-petal flower.  Natasha grew angrier and angrier while the berry grew redder and redder, becoming large and swollen to capacity.

Every day, ants would crawl up and down her stalk towards the ruby-red berry, take a sniff and climb back down.  Natasha choking with anger, refused to even breathe out. 

Natasha had benefited from the forest and the creatures that fed and nurtured her for her whole life but she still believed that no one cared about her.  

A tall spruce tree standing nearby seeing Natasha’s dilemma, quietly explained.

 “The forest survives on the universal law of giving and receiving, we are provided with a home to live and grow.  The ant that brought you here was kind enough to hide you in a safe place.  Now it’s your turn to return the favor to all the ants that will spread your seed, so that you will live in the heart of every seed forever.”

Natasha finally understood.  Bursting with pride at her value, Natasha nodded her head and the beautiful ruby-red berry split open and clusters of elaiosome covered seeds spilled onto the wet forest floor, for the ants to get food for their larvae and disperse Natasha’s seeds.

The smell of the berries was warm and inviting.  The air was permeated with an oily scent rich in nutrients like proteins, lipids and sugars. 

Natasha the Nodding Trillium was now free, she had taken more than six summers to complete her cycle of breathing.

[Coaching Questions]

  • How are you in balance of giving and receiving?
  • What happens if you inhale so much and never exhale?
  • What happens if you exhale so much and never inhale?
  • Who are the ants in your life?
  • What’s the lesson in this life challenge?
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The Art of Surfing

“The joy of surfing is so many things combined, from the physical exertion of it, to the challenge of it, to the mental side of the sport.”
- Kelly Slater, Professional Surfer

[Picture: Champs Scott, Tyler & Zoey Chandler, 2007 Loews Coronado Dog Surfing Champs]

Life is indeed a vast ocean – full of endless possibilities, as well as challenges which big waves represent. And, we, who live it, are the surfers, who in order to succeed, must learn how to brave the waters.

Sometimes, people wonder how they could surf through life when it seems so complicated and too hard to handle. What they don’t know is that it’s just a matter of balancing – something that is nowhere near easy but with a little bit of determination, perseverance and faith, one will eventually master.

Learning how to surf is actually a step-by-step process and not something which is achieved overnight.Read on and this article might just be of help when you have decided to start with the process.

Not all the time the ocean will be calm. There will be times that big waves will come and you have no choice but to face them. No one surely wants to be caught off guard and stumble from their boards, right? That is why it is a must to know what to do when waves come on your way. But don’t be too nervous and don’t be too hard on yourself if ever you find it hard at first. Everyone goes through that stage.

One must start with lying flat on the belly. It seems like a very lowly position, you may think. To be honest, it really is. But we must be willing to start with such a lowly position in order for us to be able to stand firmly on the board later on. Those who are not willing and persist to start by standing up will eventually fall down even before the big waves start coming.

But we must also remember that we shouldn’t stay on this position forever. We must know how to push ourselves up. It might take you sometime to master it, but be patient and time will come that all of the difficulties you experienced on standing up from a lowly position will bear its fruits.

When you can finally push yourself up, stand on your board in such a way that you will not easily fall – one foot ahead of you and the other, behind.Be brave and with your head up high, go through the waves. It may seem a little frightening at first, but you’re already there and you have to face it for you to move forward, unless you want to get stuck in that particular part of the ocean and be left behind by your fellow surfers.

Then again, you should remind yourself that the chance of losing balance is not eliminated once you learned how to surf. It may even take time before you regain it. But that shouldn’t stop you. Challenge yourself to move forward and go on to the next level despite the risks.

Going on to the next level doesn’t only mean getting back up after you stumbled, it also means letting others join you in surfing. And when you do, they become your responsibility. You may be used to being alone without having to worry about anyone and may believe that it’s better but, believe it or not, having somebody – may it be your daughter or your beloved dog – surf with you is a lot more fun. Just make sure you are able to take care of them and guide them in facing the waves.

Unfortunately, waves don’t only come once. They are dynamic and they come many, many times – in some cases, one after another. So we should always be prepared. It might seem daunting, yes. It’s what most people will surely think of upon knowing it. And actually, it is what’s wrong with them. They always think of it as a difficult task when, in reality, they can choose to enjoy it rather than to complain.

But no matter how waves come crashing one after another, they will eventually end. Most of the time, waves come to us even we don’t want them to but when you have mastered surfing, you’ll even be surprised that you are even wishing for the next wave to come your way.

[Coaching Questions]

  • What does balance mean to you?
  • What’s missing?
  • Who moved your cheese?
  • What’s next?
  • What’s the first step?
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Caterpillar to Butterfly

What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.
- Friedrich Nietzsche

Every time I see clients struggling or wrestling with their challenges, it always reminds me the following story:

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole. Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily but it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it, expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge and expand enough to support the body, Neither happened! In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around. It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand: The restricting cocoon and the struggle required by the butterfly to get through the opening was a way of forcing the fluid from the body into the wings so that it would be ready for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us. We will not be as strong as we could have been and we would never fly.

- Author Unknown

In the cocoon, it may appear that clients are stuck, but it is also where ideas percolating and the transformation taking place. When the struggle is necessary, we need to wait and trust the process unfold on its own.

What coaches can help clients with: (except slitting the cocoon open for them)

  • Holding the vision of butterfly for clients.
  • Nurturing and guiding the inner caterpillar self.
  • Finding ways to break old patterns of stuck-ness.
  • Providing the space and encouragement when clients begin to cocoon.
  • Celebrate with clients the butterfly they have become.

[Coaching Questions]

  • Who are you becoming?
  • What’s holding you back?
  • In what areas of your life are you feeling stuck?
  • What is the key to unleashing your greatness?
  • What’s no longer serving the new you?
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Planting Bamboo

“One need not fear least strong will should not prevail; the main thing is not to expend one’s powers prematurely in an attempt to obtain by force something for which the time is not yet ripe.”
- Richard Wilhelm’s and Cary F. Baynes translation “I Ching: Or, Book of Changes”

There was a master gardener, who planted a small bamboo plant. The gardener was devoted to watering and caring for it. Although the gardener seemed pleased with the plant, when a regular visitor came to see the garden, the bamboo showed no apparent growth.

Upon a visit to the garden in the spring, the visitor finally couldn’t remain silent any longer. “You seem so pleased with your bamboo,” began the visitor, “but I don’t see why that’s so, this plant is showing no growth that I can see.” The master gardener just smiled and without saying a word, removed the dirt from around the base of the bamboo plant’s roots to repack them with fresh, nutrient-rich soil. As the gardener exposed the plant, the visitor was astonished to see a massive root system, which had developed under ground and out of sight. All of the bamboo’s growth had taken place under the surface. The visitor was also encouraged to see a small shoot growing toward the surface: a new plant…growing off the original bamboo plant.

In coming weeks, the visitor came by often to interact with the master gardener. Each time the visitor saw several small shoots visible above ground. Yet, the shoots remained small and insignificant. Thinking that the bamboo required more enriched soil, the visitor offered this suggestion. The master gardener only smiled and once again removed the dirt from the base of the insignificant plant. The visitor was flabbergasted! Beneath the surface was an extensive root system connected to the main plant with rhizomes which trailed intricately further and further away. The master gardener did not disturb the roots, but simply watered and fertilized the area.

A few weeks later, the visitor returned to the garden and was relieved to finally see a small plant, measuring several inches. The next morning the visitor returned to find the bamboo plant had grown more than a foot high! By week’s end, the plant was 2 feet tall, and by the end of the month, the plant was over 6 feet tall!

Coaches are the master gardeners in the lives of clients. Our clients may drop into our practice for encouragement, direction, and hope. Initially, they may conclude that the work we are doing is having no effect. They may think we are having little impact on their lives, yet we know, that over time, we are helping them to build a strong foundation…an intricate root system which will allow them to be fed and nurtured to become, a strong, self-sufficient, healthy, beautiful creation. Coaches help their clients:

  • Put down strong roots by assessing strengths, weaknesses, gifts, talents, motives, and desires of the heart.
  • By furnishing nutrients (knowledge, books, and the permission to dream) needed to grow into stronger, healthier persons.
  •  Face stormy weather when obstacles come which threaten to blow them down.

 [Coaching Questions]

  • What do you really, really want?
  • Who do you need to be to achieve your goals?
  • What keeps you from getting what you want?
  • What’s your buried treasure?
  • How are you giving change a chance?
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Michelangelo’s David

“In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action. I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it.”
- Michelangelo

Once there was a master artist, who could look at a block of marble and immediately see within the slab, a beautiful sculpture. He looked for potential and saw incredible possibilities. He could envision the ‘attitude’ of the subject to be portrayed and he could envision the ‘action’ in which the piece was engaged.

Michelangelo, perhaps the most famous and talented sculptor of all time, had a gift for seeing what others could not…how to transform a rough, rigid, slab of marble into a masterpiece. His task was not simple, for he had to work in reverse, to chip away at and remove the flaws, imperfections, and jagged edges which did not contribute to the purpose of the work, to leave behind a perfect, flawless work of art. Surprisingly, when Michelangelo was interviewed after finishing his greatest sculpture, “David,” he stated that the creative process was easy, for he simply removed the parts of marble which were not David.

Artistic talent and skill like Michelangelo’s is rare in a sculptor, but his view of his craft is a metaphor for the work we do as coaches with our clients.  Clients who may have had a vision of what their ideal selves should look, think, and act like…have lost sight of this vision over time. Sometimes they have lost their purpose. Other times they have allowed life experiences, disappointments, and the grind of everyday mundane tasks, to sidetrack them from becoming their best selves—a wonderful masterpiece. Coaches, as trained, creative professionals take on the role of Michelangelo for their clients. We help clients chip away at the parts of themselves which do not contribute to their masterpiece.

What are some of the tools coaches use to help their clients chip away at those unwanted areas of their clients’ lives so that they can be transformed into a living masterpiece? A coach masterfully helps clients:

  • Envision who they are now and who they want to become through assessing a client’s strengths, weaknesses, gifts, talents, and values.
  • Sharpen and Polish their existing talents and abilities so that they are visible to everyone. A coach also helps clients chip away at flaws and imperfections in their life to remove them.
  • Transform lives by helping clients brainstorm goals and action steps for carrying out their plan. Most important, a coach holds clients accountable so that they will continue to move forward to reach all of their goals. Coaches encourage their clients when they fail, and celebrate with their clients when they succeed.

[Coaching Questions]

  • When you are grounded and feeling powerful, how do you see yourself?
  • What’s your favorite picture of yourself when you feel strong and powerful?
  • Where have you avoided being powerful?
  • What’s been covered up? What would you love to uncover?
  • What talent or passion from your past have you buried and would like to uncover again?
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